Feb 27, 2009

Apparently I have an enemy?...

I was just having one of those days, the other day, and decided to have a little vent session. I am normally cheerful and optimistic, but things just felt overwhelming. I typed up the blog, read it once and posted it. Then within a minute I received my first comment. I read it and was really shocked so I immediately deleted it, thinking it was someone just playing a mean joke. Then very very soon after that I received a second comment. I called my best friend to see if she had any idea who it was. She told me to leave the comments on there. She said my friends would defend me.
That's what I did. Surprisingly, after the day I had I wasn't at all upset or really offended by was "Meg" was saying. I feel that she obviously doesn't know me very well if she thinks those things of me. I do think, however, that she is someone I know. I did some investigating, so to speak. She referred to Mark as Mark, rather than my husband, as someone who doesn't know me would refer to him as. She was a little too passionate to be a stranger. She is obviously single(bitter), and childless. Oh yeah, she also doesn't proofread or she can't spell. I was able to interpret her comments just fine though. Her name may or may not be "Meg". I will have to look into that further. This whole enemy thing is really quite fascinating. I feel like Spiderman!!

Even when this chick kept going on and on about me, I didn't feel upset. I was actually laughing at the things she was coming up with. My husband didn't feel the same. He is ready to fight for me right now, haha.
It was so nice to see how many of my friends understood me and my frustrations. It was also nice to see them defend me against her. I am glad to know that those who know me know that I am not normally like that all the time. Thank you to: Val(my bff), Melissa H., Chrystal, Melissa O., Josalyn, Anonymous, The Real Meg, Leah, and Crishelle. And thank you Meg for your words, kind or otherwise. I was getting a little bummed about not getting as many comments as I used to, but "Meg", you took care of that for me. I got a record number of comments on that blog post. It gave me such warm fuzzies!!!

22 comments:

This Is Our Heaven.... said...

Whoops.... all of those above are mine. I just wrote a super long comment, got a little to click happy, and then accidently deleted all of them. Its beeen a long day. LOL! But I totally know what your going through! We are both in the same boat pretty much, and I just wanted you to know that your not alone! If you feel like you need to vent, you go for it!! Have 4 under 4 is freakin' hard work!! On top of never seeing our husbands. So hang in there!! Everyone is entitled to our bad days. =O)

Ryan and Chrystal said...

Danielle,
I have to tell you, I totally checked your comments sections about twenty times that day, because I could not believe someone would EVER say things like that. I was in stunned shock. My husband and I had a whole discussion about it that night too. It was almost like those comments were being directed at me, because *gasp* I have had those exact feelings too! We mommies have to stick together, and support one another, so we can get through the hard days, and treasure the good ones.

Chaney said...

I don't particularly know you, I should say I knew of you in the singles ward years upon years ago. I happened to click on your blog from Chrystal's blog and I have to say that you yook "Meg's" comments REALLY well! I have 4 under 6 (which is NOTHING compared to you), and I have my days just like everybody else and I see my husband a whole lot more. I would have completely freaked out about her comments if they were left on my blog. I think you are doing a wonderful job. I'm sure your children LOVE their mom, and from the sounds of it you are a great mom. Keep up the good work!

MJ said...

I've got your back, chica!

I just REALLY feel sorry for that girl, because I'm sure she has it hard, it sucks being single (I did get married at 28, I've got a handle on that bitterness), and it's frustrating not being able to find a guy who not only loves you, but you love him. But that doesn't give anybody the right to pick on anyone else. And it sure isn't attractive.

Getting married doesn't mean everything is suddenly easy. It's just a different struggle. And having kids...yeah. It's fantastic, but it's fantastically HARD. No more handing the screaming baby back to his mommy, nope, you ARE his mommy. :)

Benson Fam said...

I repent for checking back all day but not leaving a supportive message! I'm sure you are a fabulous mother and you really handled that whole situation so well. I find it very refreshing to hear Mom's being honest and admitting that we all have bad days (weeks, months...) and that life is not all a box of chocolates. Well, I guess life with kids is sort of like a box of chocolates that gets smushed into couch cushions, all over every shirt we own from all the hugs from sweet little slobbery faces. Okay, I stink at anologies :).

Benson Fam said...

I repent for checking back all day but not leaving a supportive message! I'm sure you are a fabulous mother and you really handled that whole situation so well. I find it very refreshing to hear Mom's being honest and admitting that we all have bad days (weeks, months...) and that life is not all a box of chocolates. Well, I guess life with kids is sort of like a box of chocolates that gets smushed into couch cushions, all over every shirt we own from all the hugs from sweet little slobbery faces. Okay, I stink at anologies :).

Sorensens said...

Wow! I hadn't checked your blog since the post before the rant, so I'm just now catching all this. I don't even get how/why she said you were whining or saying your kids were rotten, what a weirdo.
And I know I'm late commenting on this, but I really think you are awesome, and an awesome mom! I couldn't ever do what you do everyday, and you deserve to rant anytime you please!

ashley said...

I too have been out of the blogging world for some time, but when you told me about your "enemy" this afternoon I just had to see for myself. I am FLABBERGASTED! I can't imagine having so much bitterness and hatred built up and releasing it on some poor mom who is just venting. That post could have EASILY been put up by me or any other mom I know. It truly shows "Meg's" ignorance; I can't WAIT for her to have her own family and see what it's really like. Not that it's bad, it's just reality; everyone has bad days! And I learned--as soon as I had my first child--that you can NEVER judge another mother because most likely your kids will do the same thing.
I don't think your "rant" was even bad! Everyone was talking about "cry for help" and such. Well, maybe you were, but I feel the same way you do all the time, but we keep truckin' along. I should vent more often. Women just need to feel validated; it's how we were made! And I totally agree with the whole "don't ask me how I'm doing if you don't really care" thing. I know I've been guilty of it myself (just sayin' "how ya doin?" and going on my way), but I do wish that people TRULY cared and wanted to help each other more. I REALLY hope you know that I would be more than willing to help you with ANYTHING! Us moms gotta stick together! I just think it's a shame when people don't respect women and all we deal with; I don't understand how such disrespect could have come from another woman. I hope "Meg" and all of us learn how to be constructive and helpful rather than judgmental and hurtful.
You hang in there Danielle, and call me on the hard days. More than likely I'll be having one to and we can vent together!

P.S. I've never heard kids say "I sure love you" as often as your's do, and I know who they learned that from!

Meg said...

I think its funny that you need comments to puff yourself up. That you have to shout out to them that you are grateful for them but they dont give a shit any other time in your life. You are such ababy wheny and depressed. You lie when you say you were laughing becuase that is not what you do, you complian and cry. I think you want people to think that you were okay with the turth that I was spouting but really you were looking inside to really truly know if i was right. these people who try and say you rare a good mother or that your kids are great must not KNOw you or see you everyday because i havent seen this kind of behavior EVER and I see you many times. I think you are stupid for thanking people to rant for you and even dumper to think that they are your dfriends. i will not be commenting again because it makes me sick just thinking about you puffing up your self more.

The Halls said...

It's really hard to understand what a person is trying to communicate with so many errors in writing.

Meg said...

shut up ugly bitch. stop dying your hair before it falls out!

The Halls said...

Your 'Meg' appears to live in Denver

Danielle Smith said...

Yeah, I think she does. Which also means that she is a liar, because she hasn't seen me many times. No one in Colorado has seen me many times in the last 6 years. "Meg" why don't you just tell me who you really are, you obviously don't have the guts to really confront me when you feel so much anger towards me. Why don't you just come forward already. I am ready and willing to hear you out. If you think you know me.

Meg said...

I think you are also a lonely soule.

Meg said...

Hwo cares about your appearance too much.

Meg said...

and ur only friends are comment people. cry, just cry.

The Halls said...

Maybe everyone should go their separate ways and enjoy their own lives and forget what anyone else is doing, especially since it doesn't affect anyone one way or the other.

Danielle Smith said...

Meg, you are too kind. I think it is important to care about your appearance.

Rachel said...

For the recorde it's not me as you can think whatever you want to think. I have nothing bad to say about you Danielle and that's the truth! When we do talk your always nice to me so I do Thank you on the one. Have yourself a great day!

Danielle Smith said...

Meg, just tell us all who you are so that this madness can end! If you hate me fine, then tell me who you are and perhaps you can get the pleasure of seeing my face as you say it.

The Halls said...

It's really easy to diss people under a false identity and/or behind a keyboard. Why comment so frequently and not say who you are?

Marie Giles said...

Hi Danielle! It's your old friend Marie. I usually don't comment on blogs much (I'm still new at this thing), but I just want you to know I love you. You have every right to vent on your blog. Honestly...that is what blogs are for right? I vent on mine. I cry. I laugh. That is just what you do.

I just hope you don't think I'm this Meg chick. I might not be married yet, but I'm not bitter about that. And I have an idea, not a full understanding, but an idea how exhausting 4 children can be. I'm an aunt to 26 and I spend a lot of time with my sister, her 4 energetic children, and her deadbeat husband (not saying that Mark is a deadbeat AT ALL). I see how hard it is on her. You will be blessed for it though...that I know. Hang in there! You might have one bitter enemy, but you have a whole slew of people that love you, support you, and back you in your efforts.

Muwah! Love your GUTS!!!